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Why Don’t Men Wear Dresses?

by mattie on April 13, 2008

No man dare touch these comfy dresses!

There are few things in a man’s life that draw more ridicule and scorn than when he reveals a trait that is branded “feminine”. After all – men are supposed to have no interest whatsoever in the feminine, and aspiring to anything feminine is so repulsive and foreign that any man who publicly displays such a pursuit is assumed to be gay or downright mental.

Why is it this way? Is it simply for practical reasons that men don’t express their feminine side, or is there some other reason? An exploration of the question brings up some very interesting reasons why men don’t wear dresses. Among the most popular explanations are:

  1. Dresses are uncomfortable and restrictive of movement: This reason forgets that there are many different styles of dresses that can be worn. Many dresses that you see women wear these days are actually less restrictive in movement, and would be more free below the waist than most pants that men already wear. Consider that dresses and skirts can be both cooler and place no pressure on the private ares like pants do (a plus for sexual health). The argument that dresses are uncomfortable makes no sense whatsoever unless it’s super-tight dresses we’re talking about – which the majority of women do not wear on a daily basis.
  2. Because only gay men would want to wear a dress: This is another completely silly argument. How many gay men have you ever met that wear dresses? When a woman wears pants to the office, or when she borrows her boyfriend’s sweater do we wonder if she’s a lesbian? Of course not. Multiple scientific studies have shown that less than 5% of crossdressers are homosexual. That means the overwhelming majority of men who would want to wear a dress are not gay at all.
  3. Cross dressing is a sin: This is a more complex argument, and is based on a literal interpretation of Deuteronomy 22:5 which states that neither women or men should wear each other’s clothing. There are numerous arguments against a literal interpretation of this text, and explanations that this Old Testament verse is more about using deception to lead another to sin than a wholesale condemnation of wearing an article of clothing from the opposite sex. Even if it was a wholesale condemnation what should we do with all the women who wear “boy shorts” and pants, and all the other verses in Deuteronomy that we ignore on a daily basis? What about all the men in the Middle East and Scotland who wear clothing that strikingly resemble their female counterparts?

Of course there are more reasons than just these three that people use to justify the negative stigma of a man wearing a dress. Most of the reasons though are pretty simplistic like, “it’s just wrong,” or “because it’s stupid”. But I’ve long believed there are deeper reasons behind why it’s seen as inappropriate for men to wear women’s clothing.

Recently I’ve come across some excellent discussions of the topic, and two in particular I think hit the nail on the head as to the underlying issue behind men who cross dress. A comment by Lauren O in one of those articles sums up the entire argument into a couple concise sentences:

“I think it’s perhaps more likely that it’s easier for society to accept women taking on men’s roles than it is for men to take on women’s roles, because women are seen as inferior. A woman wanting to take on men’s roles seems less offensive, because, the reasoning goes, who wouldn’t want to be a member of the superior sex? A man wanting to take on women’s roles seems more offensive, because what man would ever want to degrade himself like that?”

I couldn’t agree more. The majority of the negative responses to a man wearing a dress have to do with the way that some men (and women) comprehend the genders. Many individuals still see the woman’s role to serve the man and be subservient to him. Likewise, many people feel that they very reason a woman dresses the way she does is to simply impress men and garner their attention. If we’re to assume that the function of women, and the behavior of women is centered around pleasing and attracting men, it becomes perfectly reasonable for people to think that someone who wants to cross-dress is “gay”. But this argument also reveals that sexism and the viewing of women as “objects” is still alive and well in modern society. This has not only a continued negative effect on women, but on men who are stereotyped into their own roles as well.

Assessing attitudes towards cross-dressing men serves as an excellent litmus test for how an individual views the broader role of femininity in society.

I believe the negative response that both men and women have against men wearing dresses is more about the power of masculinity, and about how both men and women see the role of both genders in society. Even many women are threatened by their husband or boyfriend wearing a dress, much in the same way that men were once threatened by women burning bras, talking politics, and wearing trousers – but the reasons for such fear are based in sexism, inequality, and intolerance.

The reason that men don’t wear dresses (or let other men do it)? Because doing so dilutes the power that is imbued in masculinity; because a man in a dress isn’t just simply making a fashion statement, but is threatening a gender icon itself. Once men and women are truly equals, a man in a dress will be no big deal.

Further Reading:

Vernon Coleman: Why Do Men Wear Dresses? (And Why Do Some Women Get So Upset About It?)

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Sarkis Samuel August 17, 2011 at 3:58 pm

This is a great article. My name is Sam, and I’m a guy.
I’m in a Canadian grunge band called “Mediocre” and I always perform wearing a dress. I like to encourage guys to wear dresses when they see us perform live. I hope to start a trend of it. I want to open people’s minds and explore the equality issues we have in 2011.
Thanks for the great read. Check out our band sometime.
-Samuel

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Joel G October 12, 2011 at 11:33 pm

I’m a straight guy who highly supports men wearing skirts and dresses. I think performing in a band is an awesome place to show off in a dress. I would love to see you perform as so. If you need some suggestions for dresses, I would highly recommend trying (sweet/classic/gothic) lolita dresses. I custom order mine online and wear them so much at home that I ended up putting a rip in my favorite dress. You could emulate the outfits of the girls from K-On who wear lolita dresses for their performances. (Yes, I know it an anime. Even more reason to do it.) I would do it myself but I can’t sing very well nor play any instruments.

As for this article, I believe this is the best written article I have seen yet. These are some good arguments I can use next time I am convincing someone. I love the comment about Deuteronomy 22:5 because I’m a strong christian myself and have always had a hard time convincing others who bring that verse up.

JWest August 18, 2011 at 10:26 pm

Enough debating! I want to wear dresses and skirts. It’s who I am.

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Hobbit August 23, 2011 at 5:10 am

Dear readers

I have never found it a problem.

I am hetro but it is a lovely feeing to wear a skirt, and much more aqccess for my beautiful lady!

More men should wear skirts

I bet that johny depp would have no problem

Luv’n stuff

Hobbit

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Morganna August 26, 2011 at 2:44 am

I love to see a man in a skirt.

If he is straight, I like it more, purrrrrrr!

But if he is not interested in me then, Yes, it just looks great.

Luv’n'Stuff

Morganna

Charles August 25, 2011 at 2:09 am

Vernon Coleman? Isn’t he a “mental health professional” of some sort? Why not feature Joseph Stalin instead? Or Emperor Diocletian ordering a mass crucifixion? The psychiatric-psychological cult has so poisoned the wells of peoples thinking that a man has a really hard time wearing skirt category garments without facing filthy terminology like “transvestite.” In essence, it’s the same as calling blacks niggers! DISREGARD everything the psych faction says–they must be shut out of conversation.

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Bryan September 3, 2011 at 6:33 am

What’s all the fuss…so any beautiful dresses and styles.
I have a huge collection… Love them and adore all the fabrics and style..
Lucky girls…
xxxxx

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michelle thomas February 17, 2013 at 12:24 am

I’m one who loves to wear pretty dresses too. I have several beautiful dresses of my own. My colors for dresses are red and pink. I also enjoy wearing highheels. I can walk in highheels just as good as woman. I think there’s a femine side to me. I also wear slips panties pantyhose and bras. Dressing up like a lady and acting like one is great. I also have some blue black and a green dress.

Staci July 29, 2013 at 11:13 pm

Bryan and Michelle,

I am also one who loves wearing my pretty dresses (blue, green, red, floral print, and several other colors. And of course, we all need that “little black dress.”) Like you, I love all of the colors, patterns, and styles. And I’m proud to wear them all! They make me look and feel so beautiful and demure. And like you Michelle, I love wearing my pumps. However, I’m a girl that does not like wearing pantyhose. I’m almost strictly a garter belt and stocking type of lady Simply because they are more comfortable, much less restrictive, and make me feel more attractive.

Dani Harris September 15, 2011 at 4:47 am

I love trying dresses on in ladies fashion stores. Any time you wasn’t to come along and help Morganna, y.ou are welcome. Dani

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Billy September 26, 2011 at 5:53 am

I love dress shopping too!!! I could spend hours looking for just the right one and I would like to thank the ladies of the Dress Barn for all of there help. I would love to go shopping with Morgana as well. And…..I’m straight!

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Swopona September 30, 2011 at 2:40 pm

I love to wear dresses and skirts and do it regular and daily. I have had no bad comments, maybe some smiles.
It is more comfort and much more free than mens pants, including shorts.

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Robert October 15, 2011 at 10:22 am

Doesn’t it feel great to be not completely encased like some sort of sausage.

RJS October 21, 2011 at 6:33 pm

Don’t you think that society is too closed and not as open minded us some people are? I used to be goth so I used to wear tons of makeup, I went through a phase of wearing tights underneath my trousers and leggings underneath too – I still sometimes wear wet look leggings when home alone. I have arm earners, opera gloves and fake piercings from girls accessories shops and I used to wear my mums clothes from time to time – when alone as well.

I’m straight and proud, some girls find men dressing in females garments rather a turn on, as my ex told me. I feel that if you want to wear a skirt, wear a gothic or kilt style one. Dresses – only if you got the guts to, to be fair if you score a girlfriend who finds it hot you dress in female clothes, excellent.

Lifes too short I say. Leopard print tights were my fav

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Steve October 23, 2011 at 5:27 am

Dresses and skirts for guys is poosibly the best thing we could ever wear. Trousers and shorts really are not the best desingn our apendage and it binds and overheats them. The only trousers that even come clost being correct are leggings where it’s stretchy and forgiving. Women have for a long time objected to skirts, dresses and stretch leggings for men. I think a spot of jealousy for our leg shape has a lot to do with it.
Even the bible is apparantly on our side. Back in the day, dress robe style garments were a mans garment. Women are the true cross dressers by wearing pants.

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Robert November 6, 2011 at 8:19 am

Steve,

It really hasn’t been that long since pants were moved into the fashion aisles. Prior to WWII women could be arrested and jailed for appearing in public in pants in most U.S. States.
With the onset of the war women went to work in the factories, dressesd and skirts were not practical and sometimes even dangerous. So women began wearing pants to work and it grew from there. So it has only been for around 70 years. One other note is that boys here in America also wore dresses, boys up to 15 yrs. of age, although some or most boys were “Breeched” by 9 years of age. Breeching was when boys were changed over to pants. I think we should return to dresses for boys until they reach 15 at least, of course the styles would need upgraded to todays times as opposed to the period from 1835 to 1929.

Maureencd November 4, 2011 at 12:14 pm

Seems most of the ancient world men wore some kind of dress/skirt/tunic. The Romans conquered their known world in tunics – essentially a sun dress. Look at other cultures and their attire. Not sure how it happened that men ended up so locked into a single defining clothing item. Women cross dress all the time and there is not issue.

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Robert November 9, 2011 at 7:50 am

Maureencd,

That is true about the Romans, but also the greeks as well. Tunics are still worn in Mid-Eastern contries by different arabic sects. Even the dictionary defines a tunic as a dress worn by males. It was the first unisex garment in some cultures as well. I am on experienceproject.com and have talked to number of men and women there about men and boys wearing dresses (tunics) and skirts. In my neighborhood some mothers have began getting their sons dresses and skirts, unfortunately the schools old archaic rules do not allow boys these opportunities to wear them there. However with the previous mentioned site and others people are getting educated on this subject.

Dave November 25, 2011 at 9:37 am

Skirts and dresses are so much more comfortable and the whole thing against men in skirts/dresses is ridiculous. I wear skirts around the house all day every day and occasionally go hiking in a skirt (when it is warm!). There is a lot less friction in the groin area as well as keeping cool, it is also better for driving.
My wife holds the same views and even helps and encourages my purchases.
I just wish we could rid of the silly giggles and at times aggresive attitudes, it is so childish.

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William November 27, 2011 at 10:59 am

I really enjoyed this article. I have been wearing dresses and skirts ever since I was very young. It started off as curiosity, then became a fetish for a while. Now I just wear them naturally, I feel no sexual arousal from wearing a dress or skirt. It just feels normal for me. I would love to dress the way I like in public but it is difficult because of the stigma about people like me. When I am home I freely will wear a dress or skirt. I do not understand what the big deal is. I am even somewhat conservative, and even have Christian values. Western culture, still seems to have some traces of their founding puritan values. That is why I think that in places like Europe, a man in a dress is more acceptable, and there are even clothing lines that feature skirts for men. I am just an average man who wears dresses and skirts.

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donald December 11, 2011 at 12:00 pm

I love to dresses its who i am,and no man or woman can take that away from me by the way im straight

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Jane Christine December 11, 2011 at 6:45 pm

I dress fully as a woman, with full make up , wig .dress , lingerie, heels, hand bag, I go out most week ends with other T girls to pubs , club s etc and I have the time of my life …the number of real girl s who want to talk and dance with us is amazing, I can honestly say I have never found a better way of meeting woman than dressing as a woman…most of the girl s love it.. and a lot say we must be brave to come out dressed……..I will say to any one reading this don t knock it till you have tried it. you will love the interest you will get from woman

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Staci July 29, 2013 at 11:23 pm

Jane,

I’m a girl much like you. I enjoy wearing my skirts and dresses (including some very elegant gowns) extremely. And I can’t remember the last night I haven’t slept in a cute baby doll, nightie, or full length gown.

Dave December 14, 2011 at 1:48 pm

My name is David and I love to wear pretty dresses and skirts, I even would like to be a girl. Girls clothes are far better then mens.

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nikki December 17, 2011 at 11:05 am

I love wearing dresses skirts blouses slips panties bras anything femminine i love the softness of the clothing and all the styles and colors i definatly have found my femm side and i love and embrace it

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Juan Andrés December 20, 2011 at 8:22 am

Hi, I have been a crossdresser since 23 (Now I am 27 – I have felt the necesity since childhood) and from my analysis of the reason behind of putting on women’s clothes I get to the fact that we cross-dressers have more latent the feminine part than other men. That is to say that we also need to see ourselves in the role of women (I have even imagined myself being pregnant). I veery much enjoy going out shopping and buy blouses, skirts, etc. I also love doing housework and my everyday duties putting on a feminine out-fit. Sadly, I live in Colombia, an extremely machista country in which you are taken by gay for any behavior that appears to be feminine. Thus, I am an indoor crossdresser :(

In this sense I want to highlight the words you stated . For me such words are the core of the discussion of why crossdressing is approach wrongly by society:

“Likewise, many people feel that they very reason a woman dresses the way she does is to simply impress men and garner their attention. If we’re to assume that the function of women, and the behavior of women is centered around pleasing and attracting men, it becomes perfectly reasonable for people to think that someone who wants to cross-dress is “gay”.

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Blake December 23, 2011 at 7:50 pm

I wear a skirt everyday,to work and when im not at work.I am just the same person as if i was wearing jeans,which i dont wear but maybe once a month at most.You should try it some time,then you would know why guys like skirts.And just a FYI,women adopted the skirt from the mens wardrobe,AND it wasnt until the 1930’s or so til women wore pants when women first started wearing pants,and they had the risk of being arrest.Do a google search on the history of the skirt.Dont be affraid.And most women like to see a guy in a skirt.As of last night i was standing in line at the cash register,the was a woman behind me and she said,” i really like your skirt” i then said ” thanks”.I told her “im was tired of just wearing pants”,she then said“i dont blame you,skirts are much better”

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Richard January 14, 2012 at 4:20 pm

I think this article hit it right on the heaf and people should just get with the times, and let those of us that like dressing this way alone. There is nothing wrong with it and as a couple of the folks pointed out it is a lot more comfortable, and in some cases a person can look even better in a dress thasn in pants. I just wish I could get up the nerve to go out in them, and enjoy them. Good luck to those that do have the guts.

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avalana January 20, 2012 at 12:26 am

it’s still a wonder to me, at this so-called enlightened-age people are so uptight about men wearing dresses when historical examples seem to say that pant a are a relativity new example of the strange politics that govern our so called worrld. the situation is SO messed up..what is wrong whith the world, why can’t we get along together

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frank January 20, 2012 at 9:54 pm

I love to dress up I have been wearing pantie since high school I am now 55. My wife hates it so I can only dress up when she is not at home. And she wonders why I am never happy I feel so good inside when I am fully dressed wearing makeup and heels. I wish she would understand me. I would love to go out shoping dressed up like a real women But there is no way I can even ask her to help me do this. So I wish I could find some one to help me do this

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kiran runwal March 2, 2012 at 9:59 am

Hi,
I am a male of age 30. I don’t remember from when i am wearing women’s clothes. I likes to wear bra, panty, sexy nighty and much more. I don’t understand whats wrong with it? Girls who wear jeans, shirts, pants they are being known as modern in India and why the same rule is not applicable vise versa?

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Joe S March 15, 2012 at 11:23 pm

I am a male, and i wear dresses, nightgowns, swimsuits, panties, bras, capri’s, ladies pajama’s, evening dresses, and i have a wedding dress with a veil, and a garter belt for the leg.

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kevin pore March 16, 2012 at 12:01 am

I love my panties! I love my panties! I love my panties! They gave me the balls I needed to go 95% girl. So now everyday I wear women’s’ clothing everywhere and I just love it, my life is great! When I am walking the rear seam of the cotton gusset in the crotch of my panties gently caress and tickle my butt cheeks as a constant reminder that I am wearing panties. It makes me feel so wicked. I have been growing female breasts for a few years. So I love the way my bra cradles my tits and the way my Victoria’s Secret bra make them jiggle just the right amount. Oh, boy. My dress makes me feel like I am being continually being hugged by a lover. I love the smell of my perfume, the look of my neatly cared for polished fingernails, the beautiful colors and designs on my dress. I love looking down to see my hot pink nail polished toes protruding from my open toed high heels. I adore the sound that the high heels make when I walk and the way I can feel my ass cheeks working it. I feel naked without my makeup, eye shadow, mascara, eyeliner, eyebrows, lip liner, lipstick. I love to feel my earrings slightly tugging on my ears makes me aware of their presence. I love to feel the soft, silkiness of my thigh stockings on my legs. Finally I can wear hair clips, bows, flowers, wigs and etc. I really love caring a purse they are so roomy and convenient. To think I have spent so many years trying to be a real man’s man and for what? What did I get but some scars that I now wish I didn’t have and years of unhappiness trying to be like I am supposed to be. Now I am happy everyday because I have gone girl. I love being treated like a lady and being accepted as a woman. I love everything about dressing as a woman and being free to have emotions some what like a woman’s. Since I do not and do not want to take female hormones I cannot have all of the emotions of a woman; I am as girl as I am willing to go right now. I hope to someday have a long term relationship with a woman but I will never give up being girly and all of the joy that comes with that.

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Blake March 23, 2012 at 8:06 pm

I wear a skirt everyday,to work and when im not at work.So where ever i went and go,is the same now as it was when i use to wear pants/jeans.I am just the same person as if i was wearing jeans,which i dont wear but maybe once a month at most.You should try it some time,then you would know why guys like like myself and others likes to wear a skirt when they want to.And just a FYI,women adopted the skirt from the mens wardrobe,
AND it wasnt until the 1930’s or war time i believe, til women wore pants,and they had the risk of being arrest prior to that.
Do a google search on the history of the skirt.And most women like to see a guy in a skirt.As of last night i was standing in line at the cash register,there was this nice looking lady standing behind me (somewhere maybe mid 50′s) and she said to me,” i really like your skirt” i then said ” thanks”.I told her “im tired of just wearing pants”,she then said “i dont blame you,skirts are much better,and you look nice in a skirt”….so guys,give it a try,you will see what i am talking about for those who are new to this.For me,wearing a skirt is about as normal as brushing my teeth.Im comfortable in a skirt no matter where i am.I just dont give it much thought really.Its just me………

ROWSG (Rock On Wearing Skirt Guys)…..Blake

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Moddle March 30, 2012 at 12:33 am

At home, frilly skirts are soo comfortable.
In town, however, I have a nice black denim skirt, that never even raises an eyebrow. And feels great.
Obviously hetro, (old, gnarled) even as I always wear a little makeup, no-one in this little conservative town either notices or cares.
Mark you, with a pair of high heels added to the mix, everything changes.
Wearing heels, it seems the sternest looks I get are from ‘ladies’ of my advanced years who ‘do not approve !’
Smartly dressed younger women seem to acknowledge a man who wishes to be different.
Yea to the gently changing dogmatism that is coming about on this, our western society.
And FUN to be part of the changes !

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Jim Boatright April 3, 2012 at 2:56 pm

We live in a time where men wear shorts more than women. They wear shower shoes, sandals, and slides. I saw at Walmart where 80% of men wore shorts and 30% of women wore shorts.
I would saw in the next 10 years, males will start wearing dresses and skirts. Women will wear more dresses, but will mostly wear jeans. When I was a kid, you wore shorts as a kid, and to go swimming but jeans as an adult and teen. Very few people wore shorts on the street except kids and women.

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Josephine Shaffer May 29, 2012 at 9:05 pm

I’m a guy looks comfortable in dresses, skirts, and ladies flip-flops.

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Josephine Shaffer May 29, 2012 at 9:08 pm

Dresses, skirts, ladies flip-flops, swimsuits, heels, and nylons is the only thing i would wear, capri pants, and so forth.

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Kevin Ramirez June 9, 2012 at 12:33 am

For some reason I also have this problem. I always felt the need to wear women’s panties, bras, skirts, blouses, dresses, and so on. And yes, for some reason I like it, and it somehow feels more comfortable than the guys’ attire. I used to wear my mom’s panties and bras around an early age. I think it ranged from 3 – 6 years old. It wasn’t until the age of 14 that I started to wear girly outfits of my own. I’m thankful that at least my mom understands my sentiments, though I still don’t like wearing these outfits in front of her or any of my younger siblings, which consists of a 15 year-old sister and a 9 year-old brother. If I manage to live in my own house, I will make female clothing my house attire.

Also, I think this kind of stuff happens when you have sexual desires for a girl and you just can’t have it, due to the consequences later on. Does anyone think this could be another possibility?

I think that it contributed to my desire to wear women’s clothing. Because for me, it happened after I got the first clear upskirt of a little girl standing at a balcony of an apartment that I used to live in. She was around my age at the time. From there, something from that scene prompted me to dress the same way she did, but the attempt failed. However, I might have had these desires earlier, and the upskirt was probably something that increased those desires. I’m not quite sure.

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Siegfried June 11, 2012 at 8:51 am

Interesting article!

I’m a hetero male, not wearing skirts or dresses, mostly because my wife hates it. And since dress is not *that* important to me i just stick to it. The world will not end if i do not wear skirts.

But indeed i would often like to wear skirts or dresses. I work creating software (very technical software). So most of my working time i sit before my computer. Even an extreme tight long hobble skirt would be more comfortable than pants. At least as long as i would not have to move around (attend meetings and the like). I have seen photos of skirts for men, but i would prefere the feminine style. I have thought about it for some time, and found that i would prefere feminine style skirts or dresses, but tailored to my male body, so they do fit perfectly. I thought about wearing highheels, bras and things like that, but that doesn’t attract me. Exactly that seems to recently become a new trend in Japan. Very interesting.

Maybe crossdressing, transvestites and even some gay men are simply a result of pressing them into a stereotype role at their childhood. I think this builds up so much inner pressure that on some day it breaks free, thus becoming much more extreme than it would have become without beeing pressed to a stereotype.

What i would love on wearing skirts is not only more comfort, mut most i would love beeing attractive for attractive women. Since at least for me the contrary is fact it is much better not to wear skirts. And since i’m already 56, for me the time to experiment with it is over. But it is still interesting to think about it and to observe evolution here. I whish that some day men will be free to make their own decisions and not beeing remote-driven by society and anxious men and women.

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FleurTG June 15, 2012 at 12:37 pm

A dress is comfortable, easy to wear which makes each moves flowing.

The contact on flesh is great and brings me a feeling of freedom.

There is no reason I shouldn’t wear it.

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beauty June 17, 2012 at 3:40 pm

Why cant men/boys be accepted for who they are

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Tim August 5, 2012 at 8:56 am

Tim

I have been crossdressing from about the age of 6 ( now 50 ) i love every thing about female clothing, i have alot dresses and high heel shoes for all occasion, have been out a couple of time on girlie nights out and had great fun, just wish i could do it more, i do go out on my own just for walks, and just love being me, even last night i went out and around town just for a couple of hours and loved it, i am now at home all day so i have been in a dress and high heels ad make up and will stay like this till i go to bed. Just wish i could go to work and live evry day like this. Plus i would like to meet others like me so we can have girlie nights out.

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Leah Lenoire September 26, 2012 at 11:49 pm

I really wish it was ok to wear a pretty dress and some cute makeup and heels when I go out with my wife but unfortunately it would draw too much attention in my town. :( Someday the barriers will be broken and we’ll be free to dress in ways that we feel are natural to us.

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Michael January 30, 2013 at 12:49 am

I don’t see anything wrong with a man wearing a dress or a woman wearing guys clothes for that matter. In the new testament it says do not worry about what you are wearing. God loves us for who we are on the inside not who we are on the outside. God doesn’t say your not good enough for me because you may look a little different. All God wants from us is to love one another the way that he loves us. We aren’t suppose to judge one another. So I say if a guy wants to wear a dress once in a while then go for it. I say the same thin for a woman who wants to dress like a man. Its harder for a man to wear a dress in public

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urmila August 3, 2013 at 12:32 pm

I am indian hetro male. married with 2 kids. This is a great article and i couldnot agree more with the author and me and my wife dont personally feel anything wrong in me or her crossdressing . I am crossdressing since more than six years with wife’s consent and help. I can crossdress fully only when children are away, and other than my wife knows about this. This because in our conservative society,it will be considered very queer and odd. But i do wear only ladies undergarments under my regular dress. The issue feeling superior or inferior between the couples cannot be decided on the gender or based on what we wear. In our case, my wife is more successful in career, but I am good at home keeping and childraising and both are equally important

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