The Name Game
No doubt many of you have crafted a beautiful name, one that more accurately reflects the inner you; feminine, light as it touches the air, meaningful. If you have a feminine name that you have kept for quite a while and have grown too familiar with it, or if you have just started down this road, then I may be able to advise you on choosing a suitable “Nomme de Femme.” (Probably a faux pas, but I’ll abide looking silly.)
Do you plan on using the name in serious social situations? If so, you should select one that seems age appropriate, one that was popular the year you were born, a name your mother would have selected for you herself were you born a girl. My name, Emma, was given to me by my mother on a car ride after suggesting to her that I was going to change it after all. It happens to be a family name, it means “entire,” and is possibly timeless. If you can track down your mom and get her to spill the girl names she thought of for you that would be the best possible way of acquiring one. Avoid choosing a name that one of your friends already has, even though you may absolutely love it, they will just think it’s creepy. I know that I would. A name should be special and unique. A name that you plan to have for a very long time should serve to shape you to some degree over that span.
(Continued below...)Is your name going to be a stage name? A name that will likely be used for performance purposes, one that titillates and causes a stir? Then take the gloves off and let the name wheel roll. In fact, that’s a good idea; write down a number of names that may draw attention, even on paper, such as Marina, Porsche, Jasmine, Coco… Put the list on the wall and throw a dart at it. The best thing about this type of name is its impermanence. One day you may want to be Coco, sensual and exotic like some chocolate dream, the next day you could be mysterious, romantic, and powerful like the sea with the name Marina.
If neither of those methods works for you, then consider having a look around. There is always a local language, and names are a part of it. Are the girls that live nearby named Rebecca, Claudia, or Emilia, then you can dive into the classical names. I love the name Audrey, it’s very classy, and I would probably have chosen it for myself if not for my mother’s perfect suggestion. Do they carry less conventional names such as Tawnya, Wren, or Misty? Then I hope you’re young, just kidding! I would look to foreign names in that instance, like Aki (Japanese for autumn), or the very French Corinne. Make sure to pronounce it as though you were French too, (http://french.about.com/library/media/wavs/Corinne.wav) you should always have a little fun with your name!
Being a girl inside does not mean that you are assigned some wretched fate that disallows you the right to alter the many facets of your outer identity while you keep a festering secret. Being transgender, whether you consider yourself a cross dresser, a drag performer, or you live as a woman, can be a great source of enjoyment. You have the freedom to be fluid, to take your identity back and position yourself somewhere along the spectrum of humanity that can make others perceive you as wonderful and intriguing. Have fun with the name game! It was a satisfying and pleasant experience for me.
I’m a crossdresser myself. I don’t crossdress that much, but it is important to me.
I seriously started thinking about a name at about age 16. And it wasn’t long at all until I thought of the name Leanne. It just seemed to fit so right, and feel so right to me, I’ve never looked back from that name for my more feminine side. I love it.
When I was a teen I thought of the name Rachel, I guess Friends was a factor! 🙂 I like Leanne, I have a friend named Leanne, actually. Very nice and upbeat lady.
My wife helped me choose mine. Lois, after Lois from Family Guy. One of our favorite shows to watch together.
My wife gave me my name. Then after awhile she changed it to Sluttina. but now after almost 4 years of marrage, it’s back to Tina.
When I was young and dreaming of growing up to be a woman, I was so obsessed with fixing my wretched body that I never gave much thought to my name. But, at the same time, my mom had told my younger sister and I what she would have named us if we had been born the other sex, and I would often call my sister Dennis in order to get her to call me Rita.
Many years later when I was off at college, I began to think about my name more seriously and eventually settled on Paula. I’m not sure why anymore, I think I just liked the way it sounded.
Several more years passed and when I was ready to attempt my first transition, I settled on Rebecca. That was how my wife knew my femme self.
However, in the end, I have come back around to Rita. It was afterall what my name would have been, had my genitals not been deformed. So, to honor my mother and to show my family my total resolve, I am and will forever be Rita. It’s not flashy or trashy or over the moon, but it is who I have always been.
Finally at age 60 I couldn’t fight any more
I have just recently stumbled upon this site. After giving it a great deal of thought, I just decided on Destiny. I just recently changed the spelling to something I liked better.
I usually dress en femme everyday to some extent, though i have not left the house (exept a few undergarments). When I am dressed my name is Megan. If someone mentions so of the more feminine things in the apartment, I simply say the belong to my friend, Megan. It settles things and I am happy to speak her name out loud to someone other than myself. Its hers and my little secret, so shhhhh, please. lol
Fleur has i find it romantic and poetical. A flower is blooming and getting beautiful. A discrete beauty, who reveals herself when wanted.
Fleur was my first choice and the one I keep using.
I like as well Samantha, Elisa, Marion.
Kisses,
My wife and I talked about this a lot before we came up with Leah. There were so many parameters to meet. It couldn’t be the same as any family or closer friends. It couldn’t be a name we associated with someone we didn’t like. It couldn’t be too common. I was looking for something northern European, There was one that I liked very much but my wife protested because she didn’t like it and it’s super important that she like it as well because she is the one that uses it with me the most.