The Name Game
No doubt many of you have crafted a beautiful name, one that more accurately reflects the inner you; feminine, light as it touches the air, meaningful. If you have a feminine name that you have kept for quite a while and have grown too familiar with it, or if you have just started down this road, then I may be able to advise you on choosing a suitable “Nomme de Femme.” (Probably a faux pas, but I’ll abide looking silly.)
Do you plan on using the name in serious social situations? If so, you should select one that seems age appropriate, one that was popular the year you were born, a name your mother would have selected for you herself were you born a girl. My name, Emma, was given to me by my mother on a car ride after suggesting to her that I was going to change it after all. It happens to be a family name, it means “entire,” and is possibly timeless. If you can track down your mom and get her to spill the girl names she thought of for you that would be the best possible way of acquiring one. Avoid choosing a name that one of your friends already has, even though you may absolutely love it, they will just think it’s creepy. I know that I would. A name should be special and unique. A name that you plan to have for a very long time should serve to shape you to some degree over that span.
Is your name going to be a stage name? A name that will likely be used for performance purposes, one that titillates and causes a stir? Then take the gloves off and let the name wheel roll. In fact, that’s a good idea; write down a number of names that may draw attention, even on paper, such as Marina, Porsche, Jasmine, Coco… Put the list on the wall and throw a dart at it. The best thing about this type of name is its impermanence. One day you may want to be Coco, sensual and exotic like some chocolate dream, the next day you could be mysterious, romantic, and powerful like the sea with the name Marina.
If neither of those methods works for you, then consider having a look around. There is always a local language, and names are a part of it. Are the girls that live nearby named Rebecca, Claudia, or Emilia, then you can dive into the classical names. I love the name Audrey, it’s very classy, and I would probably have chosen it for myself if not for my mother’s perfect suggestion. Do they carry less conventional names such as Tawnya, Wren, or Misty? Then I hope you’re young, just kidding! I would look to foreign names in that instance, like Aki (Japanese for autumn), or the very French Corinne. Make sure to pronounce it as though you were French too, (http://french.about.com/library/media/wavs/Corinne.wav) you should always have a little fun with your name!
Being a girl inside does not mean that you are assigned some wretched fate that disallows you the right to alter the many facets of your outer identity while you keep a festering secret. Being transgender, whether you consider yourself a cross dresser, a drag performer, or you live as a woman, can be a great source of enjoyment. You have the freedom to be fluid, to take your identity back and position yourself somewhere along the spectrum of humanity that can make others perceive you as wonderful and intriguing. Have fun with the name game! It was a satisfying and pleasant experience for me.