So I’m going to go with a little more of a narrow topic here. Admittedly some of you won’t relate to this directly, but it’s still something worth giving some thought to. Assumptions not being made about anyone’s orientation here, but at least on some level, it has to be the ultimate affirmation of one’s crossdressing success if they get to go on, or at least are asked to go on, a date in their fem role.
Obviously the conversation becomes complex when we realize not every – or even most- crossdressers would consider a date with a man a desirable outcome. But even for those who assume the defacto role of lesbian while dressed still surely must be flattered that a man would want to date them. I remember the first time a man – a young good looking man at that – showed an interest in me, I thought I would explode with joy. I was unable to return his interest, due to jealousy issues at home, but nevertheless I felt the ultimate affirmation in that moment.
Then of course, many CDs are still married to supportive (or non-supportive) spouses and generally then are sidelined from the dating scene. There are, of course, exceptions. Some couples have open relationships, some wives consider their husband’s alter ego to be a separate entity for the sake of the marriage vows and “she” can date men, while as a husband he would never be free to see another woman. Certainly there are many shades of variation on the general idea. That said, it’s still safe to say that a great many CDs are simply not in a position to actively date. Many wouldn’t want to be. Still, is there even one among us who wouldn’t get a huge rush out of the idea of so expertly presenting the fem persona that an ordinary man (not a “chaser” but one who saw you as a fully equipped female) showed an interest in you?
Perhaps the day will come when I am ethically permitted to seek out that affection and I readily admit to not a few daydreams about being romantically perused by a man who saw me as a woman in every way, and treated me as such. Surely I’m not the only one. I invite the reader to share their experience with this subject. Have you dated while en fem? Been perused? Would you like to be?
And if your interest is in females, have you been propositioned as a woman by a woman? If so, was it an affirming experience? Please, share your stories.
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