Bad news and good
I suppose a lot of readers want a site like this to be helpful. That is, to provide make-up and fashion tips, tricks to be more passable, maybe some clue towards interacting with your significant other or dating or whatever. Admittedly my contributions haven’t trended in that direction. Honestly, sites like youtube are flooded with “how to” videos and every other t-girl has a strongly held opinion about relationships and dating, often contradictory. It seems to me that with quite the flood of trans related info out there, it’s maybe better to try to provoke conversation of possible, or at least some thoughtfulness.
That reasoning often leads me to comment on current events more than perhaps you would expect. As it happens, my thoughts drift more often to what the future holds for gender variant people than it does to trying to find a more creative way to talk about shoes, no offense intended to great shoes and those who love them!!
What is on my mind tonight is the ongoing drama created by the “Pacific Justice Institute” having chosen to make an example of a trans girl in Colorado in order to stampede their ignorant followers into helping them attach the recent California law providing equal access to trans students in California schools. Now I don’t want to get so political that I dig into that law or what the future holds for it, or spend much time pointing out how silly it is for them to be up in arms about a law which codifies a policy that’s already been in place for up to a decade in various major metropolitan school districts (and not just in liberal states). But I do bring it up for this reason.
We have regularly celebrated – rightly so – the various legal victories for gender non-conforming folks over the last few years, and I have been greatly gratified to find in my own personal experience a lot more tolerance than I would have expected (though as one writer has pointed out, mere “tolerance” should not be the goal, but rather respect) but we should not let the good news blind us to the reality that we’re seen as fat, juicy targets for those who would need a scapegoat to keep their contributors faithful. For them it matters not that having promoted an attitude of disgust for us, some of those disgusted folks will prove to be a danger to some of us. Why cares as long as those contributions keep pouring in. Make no mistake, for the opinion shapers it’s not about hatred or even ignorance, but greed and lust for power. They can comfortably tell themselves they are not being hateful, be cause they see us as unworthy of the respect that would make them question their motives.
In the midst of all this though, the best counter argument is our own very human stories. Which is why I grow to have less and less patience with the persistence of so many among us to remain in the closet. If we are to be respected, the world needs to see that trans people are not, for the most part, like the folks they see on Jerry Springer. “Normal” ordinary friends, neighbors, relatives, and co-workers. The refreshing thing about the ugliness from PJI is that the community where this young trans girl lives has apparently rallied around her and said to the Crusaders “we do not support your lies and we do not want your hatefulness.” Why? Because they KNOW this young lady and they know she’s a real flesh and blood person who deserves the same respect as every other student. Ultimately that is what will win the day, and put the lie to the claims of the Traditionalists – real, live, people, with real-life stories.
Yes I know that for many of you coming out risks all that you hold dear. So it was for all those who came before you. But do be very thoughtful about it. Things can’t get better as long as we condone the nation that we should cower in shame and fear.
Photo by James Cridland