I’m a few days late on this one. I confess I distracted myself arguing about the SBC’s latest adventure in “loving” folks like me back to “normal.” But having recently addressed the religion stuff I’ll spare you a recap.
On another, somewhat lighter note then, what do you think about the general concept of “dressing your age”? One of the thing that seems to come up a lot, where or not the people involved are trans, is the catty assessment of whether a woman is dressing appropriate to her age. Certainly there are those who’s life’s breath is to find something to look down on someone about. Even trans people who’ve been on the receiving end of harsh judgement still feel the right to promote themselves to the rank of arbiter of everyone’s presentation.
There’s little doubt that many late transitioners feel a strong desire to recapture a bit of lost youth, and certainty many of us are not really built for the look we are striving to obtain, but this is not something reserved to trans women. Too-short shorts, or skirts are not uncommon among women over 30. Tank tops and halters are widespread where the weather permits and I’ve seen some 50+ women rocking a two piece swimsuit. Yes, ultimately “dress your age” often boils down to “cover up more!”
I don’t think anyone would dispute that some of us, trans or no, are far less pleasant to look upon than others, and there was a time I’d happily make note of those who wee too exposed to suit me. But I’ve come to the realization that just as I reject the right of others to shame me about the length of my skirt, I ought to be just as charitable about their appearance.
So no, I don’t make any particular effort to “dress my age”. If I want to dress like a woman 20 years my junior, as long as like the way it looks (massive ugly belly aside) then it is “appropriate” for me no matter how it looks to anyone else.
Photo by: Frank Kovalchek