(I’m sorry if I’ve offended anyone by using the word tranny, atm it’s all I know.)

-Courtney

Who’s to say what’s normal and not normal anyway? It’s a matter for individuals, and in private.
Our sex life is fantastic, we have no inhibitions about getting dressed up in matching satin or silk gowns, dresses or skirts and blouses, or long silky nightwear, and experiencing amazing feelings.
You ladies are SO lucky, you have a choice of materials and clothing that are lovely to feel, wear and chill out in. Don’t think that silks and satins don’t turn us men on. They most certainly do!
Before I married I met 2 ladies in Cornwall, who agreed to me buying some of their unwanted Size 18 clothing. Both were so turned on, helping me to dress up, that we ended up in bed. We only touched, fondled and kissed, but the electricity that flowed between us was absolutely incredible. I returned many many times, and one is still a great friend.

Please understand, those who call themselves transgender, TG or whatever, are for the most part men who have absolutelty no desires of transitioning, they don’t want to have surgery and most of all, they certainly don’t want to lose their male libido.
Transsexual, and transgender are not one and the same although many TGs would likely tell you they were the same or that they are TS, I can assure you they are not. It’s a turn on for TV’s and most CD’s, they play dress up games, go out to fantasia whatever dressed en femme (sigh), in girly mode only to return very soon to drab, lol
To me, it’s not appealing and I’m so very not pro-TG, as you might have already figured out.
Your answer? It’s buried somewhere within this reply. You only need to figure out where you – as a person, see yourself on the spectrum. On one end is the TG, AKA role play gamer, cross dresser, dreamer. On the other is TS, typically but not always someone who puts it all on the line, is willing to risk all they have – family, friends, careers, and much more, spends oh so very much hard earned money, and for what reason? To live an authentic life, to feel as one with themselves. And other reasons to but you get the idea, I’m sure.
On a side note, maybe, just maybe some of you can understand that the last thing someone needs after having suffered for so long and gave up so much would want is to see some wannabee walking around with their tri-ess girlie friends – not fooling anyone, guys. You see, the general public see you, and that’s the picture that stays imbedded forever. They hear of a TS, or read of TS’s, and think of the girlie guys playing dress up.

In my situation, I started dressing up when I was at home by myself when I was young because I was not allowed to have things when I was young. Just the rules of my parents and how they were raised. My dressing up started out of boredom and not having anything to do. But this did, and I could keep it to myself, and that is where most of your are. The males are discovered by accident, for the lack of a better word. This is regardless of what started this habit, or it’s underlying cause. The females in this matter are shocked because they were all raised to understand the traditional role of husband and wife, even thought modern culture has pushed the norm of acceptance to what is allow in society. If you step outside of this norm you are considered weird, gay, abnormal, odd or a black sheep, and even down to the point of “just not right”. We all go thorough a discovery phase in our life’s and whether we admit it or not we pickup habits from what we see, hear or are exposed to.

This also includes the fact that this type of behavior can be found in just about every culture that was existed on this planet, at one time or another. So you might say that this behavior has been cultivate into our society, so it very doubtful that it will every go away.

Some of you seem concerned with the hormone and breast. I, myself have a wonderful pair of breast and would get them removed for anything. I enjoy being feminine, but that is my choice, and I do not burden anyone else with it.

Let just say that if this continues and you both chose to stay together that you both will have to accept it. This habit is very hard to ignore. I have tried, I have thrown thousand of dollars worth of things, attire away only to start buying the same over again about two weeks later. I did this seven times before I finally quit and accepted myself and my life for what it is.

I this helps.

mikaela

When you say ‘ I can go along with it because I love him’ I think that is a wonderful thing to say. Not all wives would be like that and not all husbands are particularly understanding of their wives problems either. I find myself thinking what a lucky guy he is. I hope he jolly well appreciates it.

We’ve reached a compromise at our house. I was, I think becoming just a little depressed and finding it difficult to perform, so we had a talk, and the result is, that we do it her way three times, and then my way three times where I can feel like a proper man again. It works quite well, for now anyway. Would something like this work for you? Maybe, if he could still be the boy you married a part of the time (he still is the boy you married really, underneath) then you could play it his way for part of the time. It might help.

Anyway,I won’t pester you further, and please don’t feel you have to reply out of any sense of courtesy, although I’m always pleased to hear from you. It’s funny but, some of us seem to have to put a lot more into relationships than others,thats life I suppose.

Keep cheerful

Barry

I think I know how you must feel. Your situation is the reverse of mine in a way, you are a woman having to go along with your husbands cross dressing whilst I, as a man am having to go along with my girlfriends previously unknown fetish which effectively reverses our bedroom roles completely, or at least I feel it does.. I’m honestly ok with things, but like you, I do sometimes wonder ‘what does this say about me?’

For the sake of your child I would suggest you run with this for as long as you can. You say that the sex is wild, well that’s a very big plus and in a way, what he’s doing is a form of loving you, in that he wants to get inside your clothes and enjoy you vicariously so to speak, quite a compliment if you can see it that way. Contrast this to my situation (see above) where I am, in a sense, becoming the object of the fetish. I think your problem is much more manageable. I would find it much less threatening if my girlfriend wanted to dress up in lorry drivers trousers, although it would be a bit odd, rather than the present situation where I am putting stockings on just to keep the party lively. Life’s an adventure and if you can keep a sense of proportion and perhaps smile to secretly reassure yourself, it oils the wheels. I do hope things go well for you.

Barry