For some people, finding out that their spouse or lover is a transgendered person or a crossdresser can be a shock. People who have been married for years, can feel betrayed and disappointed. For others, it can be a small deal or even a positive outcome to what might have been an emotionally charged first conversation.

You may have already been told that your loved one is a crossdresser, but if not – if you suspect it – here are ways that you can initially react or cope with the news.