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Comment on The Stories of Real Crossdressers by Bill. (Tammy)

Bill. (Tammy) — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 22:52:26 +0000

My storie started when I was little I was adopted by my grand parence. I had two sisters and my grandma decited to dress me as a girl so that was the first time. I diden’t know then that I enjoyed it so much that I would go to any lenth to dress in any type of cloths of a girl.
I’m a man and I don’t have any desire to be what I am not. Althought I have wanted to have someone elce make me up and I want to see how well I can pass as a women.
My wife knows that I crossdress she dosnot care as long as I don’t tern gay on her. I love my wife and I don’t ever want to hert her so I only dress in private when she is at work. She works all day long and I work the grave yard shift so I have the day to myself when I’m. Not a sleep. For now things are working out fine and I think we all are happy so I don’t want to change a thing.
I do ware my panties and my bra’s under my work cloths also. I don’t see anything wrong with it and I enjoy it. I’m just being me. Thankyou for reading my story and I hope your story is a good one.

Tammy

Comment on Ten ways to handle “the conversation” by Lois

Lois — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 02:51:29 +0000

Nikki,

It is important to let him know how you feel. Make sure he understands that you still love him, but remember that it is okay to feel hurt that he kept this secret from you. But, understand that there are very likely many reasons he didn’t tell you sooner. A very likely one is that he may have been afraid of what it would do to your marriage, that he would lose you if you ever found out. Remember that he loves you very much and trusts you enough to tell you this.
As for the subject of your children. Help your husband as he explores this side of himself. That will help him to accept himself. Which, in turn, will actually benefit your children. When, or if, you tell your children is entirely up to the 2 of you. But your children seeing your marriage strengthened by this, and seeing their father able to be proud of who he is and supported by a loving spouse, will benefit your children more than you can realize. This can be used as a teaching opportunity for your children. Teach them that they can be proud of who they are, and love themselves for everything they are. I hope this helps. Remember though, therapy is never a bad idea.

Comment on Why couldn’t he have just been honest? by avalana

avalana — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 02:01:47 +0000

first be honest to yourself, and you feelings, be honest with your other, accespt him as he is or not! he is likely to be a kind peson at heart… but above all, please forgive ,that is who he is…peace

Comment on Ten ways to handle “the conversation” by Cathy

Cathy — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 09:40:23 +0000

Hi, well this is a good place to find myself. I am sitting here crying inconsolably, having discovered my partner is a cross dresser. I have tried to understand, but he says he only did it for a short while and no longer needs as he is in a good relationship (with me). But now I have found out he has a profile on a crodressing/TVgirl website, and has lots and of chats with others. He says he has never met anyone for real, but all this online stuff has been since he has met me, as well as before. I really just don’t know how to handle it, and would appreciate help and advice from other men who do it and women who have been in the same situation as me. I am such a strong and understanding person, but I cannot cope with the lies anymore. Please help

Comment on Why couldn’t he have just been honest? by Emma

Emma — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 21:34:19 +0000

Tell him to shop for his own clothes. That may sound abrasive, but there would be no reason to hide it, should you support him.

Comment on Why couldn’t he have just been honest? by Kira (Anne)

Kira (Anne) — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 21:28:23 +0000

Jackie,
Just be honest with him, there are plenty of people who hate shopping for clothes. An upside is that by being open and honest on such a simple issue, it will show that you mean to stick with him even on difficult issues. That is one big fear we all have, that the person we love will still walk out because we dress differently.
As for those “friends”, they were never really friends to start with if they would be cruel regarding such an issue.
As for the texts, that’s a whole different issue, not sure what to tell you.

Comment on Skirts by avalana

avalana — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 19:25:55 +0000

skirts are one of the most comfortable things i wear ,now that winter is here,my preferance is long velvet mmmmmmm

Comment on Why couldn’t he have just been honest? by Jackie

Jackie — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 16:14:46 +0000

Thank you so much Emma. You’ve taken a huge stress off my shoulders. I haven’t talked to anyone about this and don’t know how either. but one more question what if I do embrace him for who he is but also tell him that I’m just not comfortable with picking clothes out for him? because it’s hard enough just to do it for myself! Thanks again

Comment on Why couldn’t he have just been honest? by Emma

Emma — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 03:49:55 +0000

Jackie, it is hard. I am very familiar with that story because I have lived a slightly different version of the other side of it. Embracing him for who he is may make him the happiest person in the world, but do you trust that he is not still keeping things from you? Hiding clothes and makeup is typical behavior, simply because there are many things a crossdresser would have to address in the many conversations following being found out, but the texts bring up other issues that may need to be addressed 8-/. Aside from that, you need to make him be honest with you in a heartfelt conversation. It is very likely that crossdressing is a huge part of what makes him who he is. There is no such thing as a slippery slope here, he is what he is, even if he tries to compromise for you (which won’t be any good down the line, trust me). I have to say that him radically changing his behavior is unlikely, so you have some choices: embrace him for who he is, make him your friend and tell him you can help him dress (but not as a couple), or leave. This is your life too, you absolutely have a choice regarding the people you have a relationship with.

Comment on Why couldn’t he have just been honest? by Jackie

Jackie — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 03:29:40 +0000

But don’t want to deal with all the drama and narrow minds of our “friends” if they found out. I also am like many women who’s comments I’ve read, and have low self esteem. i’ve never been a pretty, or poular girl. guys wouldn’t date me cuz i was like ‘one of the guys’. but now that I’ve met my boyfriend, I’ve found myself wanting to be more feminine, but feel unsexy, and that he’s thinking of other women when he crossdresses. please help anything will help. sorry rambling on, and my only rescource is the internet on a cheap phone!