How well do you remember trying on your first skirt? Was it an exhilarating moment? One that sent your heart racing and heightened your senses so that you overreacted to every noise, as though that noise was prelude to the door opening and you getting caught? Did you care if you got caught? Is the memory distant? Or is it a vivid memory of slight twirls, pleats, satin, or lace trim?
The skirt has a venerable position in the wardrobe of the crossdresser. It was likely one of the first items of women’s clothing that you dared to try on. The feeling of freedom, the increased pulse rate, the simplicity of the thing and it’s beauty sunk it’s perfectly polished nails into you and will not let go! Think of it as your gateway femme clothing, introducing you to the luxurious feel of silk and making you curious about the brush of long hair on your own shoulders. The skirt is versatile, more versatile than a dress, which often comprises 60% of an outfit or more. You can switch tops, shoes, colors and materials around as though you care for no commitment whatsoever, lending it a longer closet life as well! When I go out to buy a pair of heels, I am often thinking about what kind of skirt I will need to go along with them.
Then there’s the concept of seduction. When a skirt moves it catches the eye. The way it can break up the lines of your body and give a false sense of accessibility is interesting. Something about a moveable symmetry is intriguing, and the way that it can play upon a person’s sense of revelation (think of the promise it so daintily conceals), makes the skirt a powerful weapon in the arsenal of an out and adventurous CD’er.
I believe a skirt serves as a tool for powerful projection. They can help others pin down the type of person you are much faster than if you were to wear any pair of pants. Pencil skirt? You’re likely into business. Pleats above the knee? You like people to think you’re playful (hey, or you could be goth with some fishnets!). Ruffles? Youthful. Long and heavy? You’re probably daring in some fashionable way. Short and showy? You’re probably on some scene. If you like to step out you likely own more than one, and I’m sure you have something silky or revealing for your more sensual moments.
By no means do I mean to say that a skirt is an absolute necessity. There are many women I know that I have never seen in a skirt. It is, however, a crucial piece in the wardrobe of fans of exuding femininity. I just wish for you to ponder the importance of the skirt in your life. I mean, when I came out as a youth, I did so by holding a skirt out to my mother and telling her I was more comfortable dressed up like a girl!
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I find I like skirts because of their versatility. Skirts allow different looks by just changing the tops and footwear. They also allow for diversification of appearing feminine or masculine, again depending upon the style and cut with accessorizing.
You are absolutely right. People have a hard time relating masculinity to skirts, but it all depends on the way you wear it. You gotta let the fashion bug out of the box to pull that off.
To Emma: I just wanna say that you are right on target. I love skirts and the first female clothes I bought was a skirt. I am currently 20 years old in college and I started dressing in girls clothes a year ago. I always feel that rush you mentioned when I wear a skirt, either in my home or out in the city, even more than other types of clothes. Thanks to this blog I feel more comfortable being myself and accepting myself. I haven’t come out to anyone in my life yet so thank you so much for being my only real support.
Thank you! I try to write to people who might need the support. Poke around for support forums and come back frequently, I plan to write at least once a week.
Emma,
WoW i so agree skirts are just the best and easiest way to look and feel sexy and especially if you don’t have great curves the right flowing skirt will take care of that. Just love your blog and insight!
Jessie
Thank you! Yeah, skirts can shape you in all kinds of fun ways!
I often wonder why some girls/women I know hate and never wear skirts. They’re such sensual and elegant and the first thing that comes to my mind that’s ultra-femme. I tend to like loose above the knee skirts with ruffles. They’re flirty and delicious!
It’s a self esteem thing a lot of the time. You just made me think of apples, caramel apples. Weird.
I vividly remember the first time I put on a skirt! It was exhilerating, refreshing, and more than anything it felt right!
skirts are one of the most comfortable things i wear ,now that winter is here,my preferance is long velvet mmmmmmm
I didn’t get my first skirt until years after I started dressing. But I rmember the day so much. As I was driving home my heart was racing and I couldn’t wit to try it on. I stood in front of a mirror for a while. Then a few days later I went out in it to a deserted office park and remember how it flet when teh wind blew up under my skirt. So wonderful.
one of the most memorable days while wearing a skirt(w/panties),was going to the schoolyard and playing on the swings with two of my sisters,and one older cousin…such a wonderful experience! swinging in a skirt!…later in life,i wore a sweetheart dress and went swinging..and i got hooked!!try it if you can!
any thing frilly sexy and silky makes a cross dresser feel special and soft. Strange how that is. Oh to be waoman and know this feeling all the time. I think woman don’t feel this way or know the privilage of feeling the softness of being femine, or maybe they just are so use to the outfits , they forget how priviledge they are.
I find the only skirt i realy like is a pencle skirt .I just love the way it fits on my hips .How it makes my lages look long when i’am in heels.You can put any prity top with it from the classes look to the on from the wrong side of the tracks look .Take Care LOVE Gayle .