Whether you’re into sandals or round toes or points I’m fairly certain that you have lusted over a pair of high heeled shoes. There are patent leather bad girl stilettos that look like liquid sin on your feet, cloth banded sandals that exude innocence, and suede pumps for the business woman in all of us. They complete the look, they tie you together from head to toe, and they’re that extra touch of femininity that you need to get over the top!
When you tried on your first dress did you go without heels? How many times have you crossdressed without the most delicious wardrobe staple? Is it because you’re too tall? Is it because they hurt? Is it because you can’t keep your balance? All of those things can be worked around with some mental gymnastics or practice.
Everybody says tall girls are attractive, and they are. There are statistics that can’t be ignored, such as only 0.7 percent of women in the United States are 5 feet 10 inches tall or taller (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services), but taller women draw more attention than your average girl. I have heard many crossdressers and transgender women also gush about the feeling of slight superiority as they tower over the other women in department stores. A bit of positive thinking can help you get on with life as a tall girl.
If you’re new to heels you may need some fair warning: Gravity is not a woman’s friend (in more than one way!). Gravity will force all of your body weight onto your toes in a raised shoe, and you will not have to walk far to come to the realization that a strut around the mall may just have to wait until you break the shoes in a little bit on a softer surface. Also, you do NOT want heels that are too big in any way shape or form. The doctors will yell at me, but if you must err, err on the side of them being a little snug. It lowers the risk of you injuring yourself when you inevitably wobble, and it can make your feet look a bit smaller.
If you look like a hopeless, lost, drunken club girl when you walk in heels, I assure you, you are not alone. It can be difficult to keep your balance in a pair of four inchers, in fact, some ladies have trouble walking in kitten heels. This is not a phenomenon exclusive to any particular gender. If you must keep your balance on something with the footprint of a distorted exclamation mark, you’re bound to stumble once in a while. There are ways to improve your balance without actually wearing heels. I memorized a portion of a basketball drill that I learned in high school that involves spot jump shooting (without the ball), that strengthens the calves and helps to improve control. Stretching in the morning and doing some cardio will be good for you, and it will improve your physique as well. Part of the appeal of the heel is the emphasis it lends to your backside, and if you have that toned too; you’ll be a knockout.
The heel is a work of art for your feet. They are attractive, colorful, alluring, and addictive. My shoe space tripled when I transitioned, and I owned quite a few pairs of shoes. No matter where you are in life, whether you’re in the closet, out at home, dress out on occasion, or live full time as a woman I suggest you buy at least three pairs in black and silver. Well, at least one anyway, that was the girl in me talking 😉
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