Does he want to be a woman?

Shortly after I found out that my boyfriend was a crossdresser, I was watching TV and ran across the movie Normal starring Tom Wilkinson and Jessica Lange. I had tears running down my face, and felt I truly understood what the characters were going through. Except for the minor fact that my boyfriend, now husband, wasn’t/isn’t interested in getting a sex change.

Ten ways to handle “the conversation”

For some people, finding out that their spouse or lover is a transgendered person or a crossdresser can be a shock. People who have been married for years, can feel betrayed and disappointed. For others, it can be a small deal or even a positive outcome to what might have been an emotionally charged first conversation.

You may have already been told that your loved one is a crossdresser, but if not – if you suspect it – here are ways that you can initially react or cope with the news.

The Crossdresser’s Wife

My loving and supportive wife talks about the day I told her I was transgendered. “A few years ago I had been wondering what was wrong with my boyfriend. Over the period of a few months when I would prod him he refused to tell me why he was so depressed. Finally, he told me he had decided to see a therapist to figure out what was wrong. A few days later, with trepidation written all over his face, he told me he needed to talk to me…”

Normal Like You - Guest Blogger Vanessa

Lets face it. Crossdressers have a PR problem. In this post guest blogger Vanessa talks about how in reality crossdressers have very normal lives. The main difference is they can’t tell anyone about their hobby. Most crossdressers live happy lives as fathers, husbands, and professionals without the outside world knowing their secret. There’s more of us out there than you may think, and we’re probably a lot more normal than you might imagine!