Does he want to be a woman?

Shortly after I found out that my boyfriend was a crossdresser, I was watching TV and ran across the movie Normal starring Tom Wilkinson and Jessica Lange. I had tears running down my face, and felt I truly understood what the characters were going through. Except for the minor fact that my boyfriend, now husband, wasn’t/isn’t interested in getting a sex change.

Ten ways to handle “the conversation”

For some people, finding out that their spouse or lover is a transgendered person or a crossdresser can be a shock. People who have been married for years, can feel betrayed and disappointed. For others, it can be a small deal or even a positive outcome to what might have been an emotionally charged first conversation.

You may have already been told that your loved one is a crossdresser, but if not – if you suspect it – here are ways that you can initially react or cope with the news.

The Crossdresser’s Wife

My loving and supportive wife talks about the day I told her I was transgendered. “A few years ago I had been wondering what was wrong with my boyfriend. Over the period of a few months when I would prod him he refused to tell me why he was so depressed. Finally, he told me he had decided to see a therapist to figure out what was wrong. A few days later, with trepidation written all over his face, he told me he needed to talk to me…”