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The Great Pantyhose Debate

by mattie on August 24, 2010

Whenever I wear a skirt or a dress I almost always wear either pantyhose or leggings of some kind. But recently I’ve been paying attention to a very vocal debate about whether or not pantyhose are acceptable anymore as a part of one’s wardrobe. In this post, we look at the debate and try and figure out how it applies to crossdressers or transgender people.

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Ten things you can do to feel more feminine

by mattie on July 27, 2010

Over the last few years I’ve been exploring ways to express my feminine side, even though I have had to spend most of my time in ‘boy mode’. I’ve discovered there are a number of things that a transgender person can do to feel more feminine, without disrupting work or their social life (assuming one is in a situation where they must continue to present in ‘boy mode’). Here are some things I’ve learned along the way.

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Funny about shoes

July 2, 2010

Recently my parents came up for a visit for a few days. They had been planning to take an Alaska cruise for years with some close friends of theirs and finally decided to make it happen. Before leaving, each of them wanted a new pair of shoes for formal night but couldn’t find any they liked in stores. So I dug into my closet and found them each a pair that they loved!

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How my sister found out

April 30, 2010

I recently wrote about coming out to my parents. Since then I’ve been trying to find the right time to come out to my younger brother and sister as well. At Thanksgiving when we were all at my parents house I thought I might do it then, but the time never felt right for having that conversation. I also wanted to tell both my siblings at the same time because I felt that it might be easier on them in case one or both of them was made uncomfortable by my coming out, and nobody would feel like they were the last one to find out. It didn’t happen that way though.

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Struggling to lose weight and keep it off

April 19, 2010

Apart from the fact that obesity in the world is growing at an alarming pace, often I think people (like myself) have used food as a kind of treatment for their crossdresser/transgender issues (especially if one isn’t “out”). On one hand I have always wanted to be thin, but on the other hand I have the lifelong stress of my internal transgender feelings that drive me to self-medicate with food. It seems I’m not the only one.

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Using Herbs in Transgender Care

April 15, 2010

When it comes to considering various options for transgender care, herbs are usually one of the first options that come to mind. They are generally seen as safe, effective, and more “natural” than pharmaceuticals and this makes them a powerful draw for the transgender individual. Besides, one can obtain virtually any herb online, shipped discreetly to [...]

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Using Avodart to Reduce Testosterone

April 12, 2010

These days, transgender individuals have a wide variety of options available to them for treatment. A quick search on the internet reveals a whole bunch of people with a whole variety of experiences and treatments they’ve undergone. This is certainly true when it comes to pharmaceuticals that are available in transgender care. One of the developments that [...]

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Does transgender therapy work?

March 15, 2010

In my last post I talked about how several years ago I came to the point where I knew I needed help. I was either headed down the road to depression and likely suicide, or I needed to find a way to ‘cure’ myself or get treatment for my transgender issues (I didn’t know it [...]

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Seeing a therapist

August 31, 2009

It’s been nearly six years since I came out to my wife (then girlfriend). But before I came out to her, I think one of the most important and helpful things I did for myself was to find a therapist to talk to. There’s such a stigma attached to mental health, and I was acutely [...]

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Coming out to my parents

June 28, 2009

It felt so good not to have to hide this part of myself any more that I really did want to tell the world – convinced that they would be as accepting as my girlfriend had been. I’ve seen both my parents and the rest of my family quite a few times over the last couple years, but the moment never seemed right. That moment finally came a few weeks ago.

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